Today I want us to stop and think about WHY we are treating our family like guests. Is it so that our kids will think we are good moms? Or maybe so we will feel like good moms? Is it so that we can stop feeling guilty over what we don’t do? or maybe we just really want to be a blessing to those in our homes. Maybe some of these are true of us…maybe not. But there is a deeper why that I want to delve into today.
We are treating our family like guests because before us is a chance to offer them something of immeasurable value: being known and seen.
We live in an age where superficial wins. We post our best selves and watch, day after day, as others do the same. The celebrity culture values shocking performances, and skin deep messages. It can feel like there is a shell around everything, with nothing inside but a void of emptiness.
But here’s the problem. Real people aren’t like that.
Real people have hearts and souls and hurts and joys and feelings. They want to be known and loved for who they are, not by what they do. And no matter how much culture tries to tell us otherwise, this longing for real and significant will never change. Not ever.
What we offer our children and our spouses when we really see them is a gift beyond value. It helps shape their soul and their place in the world. And I believe this also helps them understand that they have a Father in heaven who also sees them, and intimately cares about their life.
So let us continue loving in a way that communicates that our family members are SEEN and KNOWN. It makes all the difference.
**If you have not purchased your family’s favorite things, do that as soon as possible!**