When in Doubt….LOVE

When in doubt...LOVE

I held the phone close to my ear and listened to the voice on the other end. Suddenly that feeling, deep inside, welled up and I felt sick to my stomach. The news crashed through my understanding and landed somewhere in the unknown. A friend had made a decision that would significantly affect our relationships and community. That was years ago, but since then, other difficult circumstances have been woven into the tapestry of our story.

There are times when I fantasize about a rewind button. Words. Reactions. Decisions. The vantage point from hindsight is much clearer.

Yet while in the midst of a complex situation, there is a realization that a great deal more gray than black and white exists. It is often hard to discern what steps to take and what action is needed.

As we have wrestled, there is a truth that has risen out of ashes, unearthed and untouched by the fire.








It has always been the answer. And it always will be.

In any situation, no matter how thick with conflict or blanketed with layers.

Peter Strople, a friend of mine and business man, has a quote that says, “When in doubt…love.”

Through this conflict discernment process, one thread determines what the outcome will be, not matter the decision. If love is a part, it will profoundly affect the relationship.

Are you struggling with your teenager? Try love.

Do you find yourself in a marriage tired and worn by the years? Try love.

Is there tension in a friendship or relationship that seems beyond repair? Try it.

There is nothing to lose, and great peace to be gained.

We may not have a rewind button, but we can shape the future. Decide today that regardless of what happens, love will be the mark you leave.



What does love look like to you in the middle of a complex or difficult situation?

4 comments… add one
  • kathy October 9, 2013, 3:12 pm

    LOVE looks like reaching out to a daughter who is hurting even though she turns her back on you for days then months and eventually years. Eventually years after the hurt she has a little one and she opens the door ( if only a little way) to let you see the little one and the the wall begins to crumble just a little.
    It did not happen overnight but it was worth the long nights of crying and pain and rejection to get this far and i am grateful for every moment with her, my cherished daughter and now her daughter my little miracle grand daughter. LOVE truly is the answer!

    • newshopdesign October 9, 2013, 3:26 pm

      Amen Kathy! And I am inspired and spurred on by your courage. Thank you.

  • Maggie Tate October 9, 2013, 7:41 pm

    Yes, love is the answer to everything, but looks different in different situations. I so believe your last line about love being the mark we leave. I know I can’t do it on my own though. Have to go to the source of love, God, to be able to pass it along. For us, when our family was going through teen yuck, what ultimately turned it around, was being with our girl, where she was, as she was, and loving her there. We spent more energy and time working on our relationship with her and less time and energy working on her. Love made all the difference.

    • Krista October 13, 2013, 5:03 am

      Amen Maggie! I love how you put that….. working on our relationship with her, and less time working ON her. Taking that one to the bank! Thanks for the insight, Maggie….

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